gUrLs wiLl oLweiz be gUrLs...

When God created the world, He created not only the men nor women to exist; they were both created because such kinds would raise a diverse race.

I am a woman, I know my strengths and my weaknesses, and I know where I am good at and where I am so bad.

Even though I am also a woman, I can see and I can distinguish what are the problems of women like me that we can’t help because it is part of our personality.

The first thing is… we always wanted to feel that we are loved and we are special.

I think it is in the girl’s nature that she wanted to be appreciated. Why do you think us girls like to dress up and make ourselves pretty? It is because we wanted to be presentable and we want that the boys would appreciate how beautiful we are because it adds up to our confidence. And for those who are in a relationship, the girl would really make an effort to dress up herself well since she wants her man to be so proud that he is with her and she won’t turn out to be so insecure with every pretty woman that would pass by.

Also, we want to always feel that we are special for a person. It is a sense of assurance that somebody would be there for us no matter what happens and there’s a shoulder that we could lean on in times of trouble and despair.

Next thing is… we think too much!!!

I admit it; even I am guilty of this. I won’t say that I don’t do this because I actually do! And it always drives me crazy when I think of something related to my crush or someone who courts me or even just from a newly found friend! I am so conscious what would the guy think if I do this or if I do that… so, I would always end up so “praning!” over the simplest stuffs. And then, everything would just end up that the guy did not think nor felt that way as how I thought it would be! This is so applicable for the girls who have boyfriends! They think too much that if ever their guy is not by their side or even just delayed in replying her text messages, she would end up declaring a thousand world wars!!!!

And then… we want to be prioritized…

Imagine this situation, you set an appointment with your guy, and then, it just ended up cancelled because he forgot about it because he enjoyed playing computer games or basketball so much! Isn’t that nerve-wrecking and heart-trashing? Of course, who would want to be neglected right? Honestly, it is okay that sometimes we are not given much attention and that high priority, but doing it always is another thing! It hurts us!

On the other end… we sacrifice too much…

Ever been in a situation wherein you are hurt because he did something bad and never bothered to apologize and console with you? And still, you understood and always absorb it. Sometimes, we love someone so much that we just kept on understanding and tolerating them and what they are doing even if it hurts us so much. We don’t want to bring it up to avoid fights and arguments. And at the end, we end up crying in the night without his knowledge and we are hurt so much that it feels like our hearts are torn apart. As how they call it… the martyrs!

Also… we find it hard to easily let go and move on…

It just appears that we are okay after being hurt but honestly, we still think of it over and over again and it really bothers us. If a relationship just ended, or if a” could have been” relationship suddenly died out, we don’t move on right away and find someone new. It takes us such a long time to finally let go of the simple piece of hope in our hearts, hoping, praying and expecting that he would return or everything would go back the way it has been. That is why some of the girls can’t accept suitors right away because of course, there’s the sad reality that we still sadly expect.

And finally… if we love, we really love…

This principle may be good for some but not highly recommended for all. Of course, it is okay that we would love someone, but not to the extent that we give a hundred percent of our love to a guy. This is a very common scene for most girls who are in a relationship. The bad thing about this is when you give all of your love, you may be taken for granted by the guy that you love because he knows that you love him so much whatever wrong doing he does. Also, he may take advantage of that fact and play around with your feelings. Of course! We are women and we love… but it is not the issue. The issue is, we should love ourselves first and never forget to love ourselves even if someone would come into our lives.

Some may not be applicable to other girls, but, it is my prerogative to speak my mind… right?!?!